Photograph of Julian Real finally revealed on reddit.com

MRA antihostile wrote:
"Just in case anybody was wondering, here is a picture of Julian Real."

Yes. Above is a photo of me that was recently linked to on reddit.com. It was taken last week actually; the hair looks better now--I sure was upset about the haircut for an hour or two, as you can see! (Sometimes it just takes a good cleansing cry to get over something, you know?)

Also from the same reddit.com page is this, by "a person" (<--allegedly) who goes by the screenname of ObidiahStane, aka Ironmonger, aka "spaceball" writes about me: "I wonder how he wants to go. Firing squad or beaten to death. I volunteer for either one, so long as I get to see the faggy male feminist cry."

Geesh, Obidiah, like the photo isn't sufficient??

(How much do we have to give to men emotionally, before it's enough!?)

Oh, and just so you know what Obidiah Stane looks like, he's clearly got some vulnerability issues, unlike me up there, who is human and unmachine-like enough to cry.

Click on this link for the Obidiah Stane photo, and notice that on the same page are some of his favorite boy-toys.

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Suspected Serial Killer Anthony Sowell Proves That The Police Don't Give A Damn About Black Women As Crime Victims

I found this short and quite to the point blogpost here at Aunt Jemima's Revenge, which is also linked to down on the right in my blogroll. Please go to that site for the post, as the links are in tact there and are important to check out.
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Suspected Serial Killer Anthony Sowell Proves That The Police Don't Give A Damn About Black Women As Crime Victims

This nutjob picked the right victims. You can clearly beat, strangle, rape, murder, and descrate the corpses of black women for years despite the fact that you are a well-known convicted rapist, naked bodies are reported to be falling from the windows of your home and your crib stinks up the entire neighborhood because it smells like an abandoned slaughter house.

Somebody in the Cleveland Police Department needs to get fired with major quickness. And whoever in the hell is the local elected officials in that area where this black-ass Jack the Ripper has been living, needs to have their ass booted out of office.

Damn!

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To clear the air of the stink of MRAs: a few Andrea Dworkin quotes

[image is copyrighted 2006, by the Estate of Andrea Dworkin, and was found here. I hope John Stoltenberg doesn't mind me using it here, where Andrea's speeches have been gathered by Nikki Craft. Thank you, Nikki.]

All quotes are by Andrea Dworkin, civil and human rights activist, writer, speaker, and one of the most wonderful, warm, caring, decent, ethical human beings I've ever had the pleasure to know.

• By the time we are women, fear is as familiar to us as air; it is our element. We live in it, we inhale it, we exhale it, and most of the time we do not even notice it. Instead of "I am afraid," we say, "I don't want to," or "I don't know how," or "I can't."

• Feminism is hated because women are hated. Anti-feminism is a direct expression of misogyny; it is the political defense of women hating.

• Being a Jew, one learns to believe in the reality of cruelty and one learns to recognize indifference to human suffering as a fact.

• Woman is not born: she is made. In the making, her humanity is destroyed. She becomes symbol of this, symbol of that: mother of the earth, slut of the universe; but she never becomes herself because it is forbidden for her to do so.

• Feminists are often asked whether pornography causes rape. The fact is that rape and prostitution caused and continue to cause pornography. Politically, culturally, socially, sexually, and economically, rape and prostitution generated pornography; and pornography depends for its continued existence on the rape and prostitution of women.

• Pornography is used in rape - to plan it, to execute it, to choreograph it, to engender the excitement to commit the act. [Andrea testimony before the New York Attorney General's Commission on Pornography in 1986]

• Women, for centuries not having access to pornography and now unable to bear looking at the muck on the supermarket shelves, are astonished. Women do not believe that men believe what pornography says about women. But they do. From the worst to the best of them, they do.

• Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us.

(source: here)

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Men's Rights Assholes Make Threats to Beat Up, Rape, and Kill Julian Real

[image is from here]

TRIGGER WARNING TO ALL WOMEN: WHAT FOLLOWS IS DISTURBING AND DISGUSTINGLY MISOGYNISTIC!

I just found this thread on "reddit" here,
http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/a0yz5/male_feminist_julian_real_supports_the_idea_of/, on a discussion thread called: Male feminist Julian Real supports the idea of exterminating 90% of the world's male population

I responded and also reported their threats of violence against me to all appropriate places. My response is primarily my comments from here to those who posted at A.R.P. But I've added a message to all the MRAs at the end which also got posted to their site. We can note not only their threats of violence, but also their blatant misogyny and anti-lesbian statements, and statements that are grossly insensitive and/or hostile to mentally disabled folks, heavy women, feminists, and more. I put the threats in bold. To put the woman-hating in bold would have basically meant putting everything in bold. There's not much else going on at that place but reveling in misogyny.

From A Radical Profeminist: To Chris, You wrote: Wait, seriously Julian? You are "all for" wiping out 90% of the men on the planet? Do you expect to be among those killed?
This is where people's histeria really kicks into high gear. Chris, you get that genocide and rape-as-a-systematic-practice of subordinating and terrorising and violating women is happening RIGHT NOW, yes? So WTF difference does it make WHAT I think? What are YOU doing to END the genocides and rapes? Please answer in great detail. And, should the time come for women to take enough power that they CAN kill 90% of men, I'll answer your question at that time, ok? Check back in with me when that power shift has occurred.

Julian Real said...
To the Anonymous who wrote 90 percent. you son of a b*tch. u first.
Do you have any relation to something called REALITY? If so, you might note that MEN hold the power to kill women systematically (and do so), not the other way around. Women are raped systematically, not the other way around. Women are battered (BEATEN UP) systematically by men, not the other way around. Women are systematically sold into sexual slavery or are "just" pimped by men and procured by men, systematically, not the other way around. Misogynistic atrocities of all sorts are managed and maintained in male supremacist societies with men at the helm, with men in charge of all major institutions. There are no female supremacist societies. You know that, right? OK, so now that you're in reality... Why are your knickers all in a bunch because of a little exchange between two people on a blog? Is THAT what REALLY upsets you, of all the things to be upset about and go out of your way to comment about? What are YOU doing to END rape and genocide. I await your answer. And please give me all the details of your daily work to do so. As for "u first"... I insist: After you.
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To all the misogynist men who have commented on this reddit thread: let's hope the women go for your throats first. And when you start babbling on as much about what's actually happening in the world as you do about what one Anonymous woman and I say on one blog, well, that might show you actually have lives worth living. - JR
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And here's what the "thoughtful" MRAs have to say to one another. Warning: it's a bit like a verbal circle jerk, with extra misogyny added to the mix:

antihostile [wrote]
In that case, I bet 90% of the world's male population supports the idea of exterminating Julian Real.

Raff001 [wrote]
Good a place to start as any.

MeanMotherHubbard [wrote]
Get out of my head.

tomek77 [wrote]
There is nothing more pathetic than a pussy-whipped feminist man. In my opinion, most do this because they think it'll get them laid, but it generally backfires on them... it turns out women don't like spineless losers after all, who'd have thought? :)

AnnArchist [wrote]
They are the same guys who are deceptively nicer than they really are just so they can touch a girl. Thats why girls like assholes, because they can usually see through a creepy nice guy's act and they know all men have the same goals and prefer a guy who is at least open and honest about it

guest121 [wrote]
Yes, but if you kill 90% of men (I believe he is included in the other 10%) then they guy will have much bigger chances of getting laid.

IronKing [wrote]
step four reduce the male worldwide population to say 10%. Maybe then we'd have peace in the world
oh the hypocrisy
The only way to have peace in the world is to murder 90% of people I don't like.
How fucked up do you have to be to advocate wiping out 45% of the world's population. That's far more than what Hitler was trying to do. She claims men are deadly and in the same paragraph says women should fight men, execute rapists (we know the story with rape) and exterminate 90% of the male population.

OceansAway [wrote]
How fucked up do you have to be to advocate wiping out 45% of the world's population. That's far more than what Hitler was trying to do.
Feminism is truly evil, worse even than Nazism or even religion.

nmbr [wrote]
You forgot the quotes around "Feminism."

theguffer [wrote]
This is just more proof that most feminist are not pro-equality; they are anti-man. Apparently, it doesn't matter if you are one, either (a man, that is).

ObidiahStane [wrote]
So, is this guy volunteering to go first?

RobinReborn [wrote]
It would be cool if you were among the 10% of guys that survived.

runamok [wrote]
I think that's Julian's true motivation.
Then maybe he could get a date.

Rygarb [wrote]

Wow, this mangina is an even bigger douchebag than Hugo Schwyzer, and that's saying something. If he hates men so much he should start by offing himself.

Liverotto [wrote]

Let's find out his address and phone number and rape his brain.

Male feminists are the real reason of the mess we are in, personally I would really risk jail time to beat up such an individual.

Lord_HalfJack [wrote]
Youd be proving his point, man. The wordt thing we could do to him is IGNORE him. let him wither away in the absence of a podium.

mtaclof [wrote]
No. He's insinuating men are vile and violent for no good reason. This guy IS the kind of douchebag who deserves to get fucked up.

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And on with their misogyny:

BinaryShadow [wrote]
That will leave 10% of the male population to handle all the male-dominated jobs that women don't want. Think garbage handling, risky jobs like construction, janitors, etc.
Women will be CEO's of companies that won't be able to function. Good luck with that.

vostran [wrote]
She has to kill 3 billion people, we only have to kill her..

lwrun [wrote]
It's a he.

vostran [wrote]
Gender aside, this one is definetly deserving of the pronoun 'she'.

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celticson [wrote]
How great to be one of the 10%! Weeee! One could have their choice, and not have to pick a BBW or fat chick.

Inconnu2u [wrote]
BBW = fat chick.

celticson [wrote]
Not necessarily.

Inconnu2u [wrote]
Necessarily, by definition. The same with "plus-sized". Fat.

celticson [wrote]
Agreed. But, there are relatively slim chicks who have too much fat on their chest.

ignatiusloyola [wrote]
You know, I think this is an idea I can get behind... Considering that lesbians don't make up 90% of the female population, there would be more women to go around and men would have all the power of sex and relationships!=
But seriously, it is a retarded idea.

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A Pop Quiz on Dishonesty, Deception, and Trickery Among Heterosexually Active Men

[this image is from many places, including here]

WARNING: WHAT FOLLOWS IS SEXUALLY AND SEXISTLY GRAPHIC:

This is a quiz. How many of the following questions or statements demonstrate heterosexually active men (HAMs) being honest? And how many demonstrate HAMs being respectful and caring of women? (There might be overlap. You'll see.) I seriously wonder how many HAMs out there ask women these questions or make these particular statements, in some clear, verbally direct form, before engaging in sexual activity. I am recommending all HAMs ask the caring questions and make the respectful comments, and disregard the rest, unless you are prepared to say and commit to what's said in the last item on the list.

1. I need to let you to know what my history is with abusing women or being disrespectful to women? I feel obligated to tell you. For one thing, I like using women as prostitutes, and after we have sex, I might want to slip you some cash, because it makes me feel more in control.

2. I'm going to now tell you what my habits are with regard to using pornography, with having 24/7 visual access to incested, raped, and pimped women. [Tell her your hourly use per week.] I want you to know, before we have sex, that I may be influenced by that pornography of raped women in how and what I want from you sexually. And I think it's important you know that I access these websites without any concern at all for the raped woman on the screen. She is just a thing to me. A visual thing I use to get off.

3. What is your history with men abusing or mistreating you, including sexually? Have any of the men you've been with in the past (if any) treated you with great respect and dignity, always honoring your boundaries, never trying to push beyond them?

4. I believe that women and men "play games" and that sometimes when a woman says "No" she really means Yes.

5. If you are a survivor of incest, child molestation, or rape, I'd prefer not to be sexual until I know much more about that history and how it has impacted you, emotionally and sexually. I'd like to know if you feel safe and at ease setting boundaries with men during sex.

6. I generally assume that once a woman starts making out with me that she wants to go all the way. So if you and I start kissing, I just want you to know I'm going to do my best to fuck you.

7. I think women are all wh*res deep down. Even the nice girls. I think you all are sl*ts. Years of living in this world has taught me that. And my dad used to say it a lot. And a lot of my male friends say it and think it too, so I know it's not just me. So, uh, basically I just want you to know that I don't really have much respect for you as a human being.

8. I think false rape charges are far more common than actual rapes.

9. I'm really tired of women bringing up past "traumatic events" as "an excuse" to not have sex with me. I'm really sick of that shit. So don't pull that on me or I'll be really pissed off.

10. I think of intercourse as "sex". And I love doing it in the ass. And I love getting head but am not into going down on you orally. And I'm not into wearing condoms because they affect the dull the feeling, you know? And they make my dick feel like it's being strangled. So no condoms for me. I'm assuming you've got all the protection you need to make sure you don't get knocked up, right? Because I don't want you coming after me in ten months with some claim that I owe you child support. That's happened one too many times to me already!

11. Given most of the disrespectful and uncaring stuff I've said above, do you still want to have sex with me? And if so, I decline, because I don't have sex with women who would want to have sex with a pro-rape, woman-hating asshole like me.

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Understanding Rape Statistics: Why the questions asked matter

"Those statistics are not abstract to me. Every three minutes a woman is being raped. Every eighteen seconds a woman is being beaten. There is nothing abstract about it. It is happening right now as I am speaking." -Andrea Dworkin

The above image comes from this website, which has a short article by AN HONEST MAN about men's use of internet pornography. The text of this short article reads as follows:

There's no point in lying about it. We know you do it. In fact, if it weren't for your porn habit, the Internet probably wouldn't have taken off the way it did.

According to a new survey, one in four men views pornography online, and we've gotta believe that is a vast underestimation. What's worrisome to many, though, is that unlike the stash of magazines in your underwear drawer, Internet pornography leaves behind difficult-to-hide traces such as auto-complete entries (those helpful windows that pop-up when you begin typing in search boxes and address bars), not too mention irritating pop-ups and spyware.

There are even anecdotal tales about online pornography ruining relationships. For example, take Sarah from Cornwall who left her husband Greg after finding a disturbingly long list of pornographic sites in his browser history, or Christine who decided to stay with her husband Peter and instead extracted her revenge by pouring superglue into his modem. Just remember, if you're honest about it (everyone knows you're doing it anyway), and make sure ads for nasty videos don't pop up while your daughter is playing her 'Dora the Explorer' game, you should be okay. [From: Guardian]

And here are some of the comments written in by to or three MEN and one woman:

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El Taco said 8:43PM on 9-30-2008

theres no way that statistic is true. MAYBE its true for how many men routinely look at porn, but I can almost guarantee its higher than that for men who occasionally (twice a year MAYBE) look at porn.

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Mister Poo said 9:18PM on 9-30-2008

Im looking at porn right now:)

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Michelle said 6:25AM on 10-01-2008

I'm sure more guys are looking at porn than only 25%. What's funny is when they deny it and then blame it on one of the kids when the kids are the ones that caught them in the first place. Then comes the computer viruses. THEN you gotta pay to get the computer fixed! Quit lying guys and get yourself a magazine or ask your wife for a little more sex.

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pheer6224 said 1:35PM on 10-01-2008

no, that's just the percentage of men globally that MAKE internet porn.

If you think the behavioral loop from "porn use" to "utilising 24/7 access to images of raped women" to "men's rape of female human beings" is an implausible one, you don't know what men do that constitutes "sexual offences against women and girls".

Whenever I hear about some "pleasant [white] man next door" in a working or middle class neighborhood who was found out to have raped several women, or incested his daughter, one of the first questions that occurs to me to ask is: how many people knew what his consumption of pornography was and what the content of it was? Because--SURPRISE--there's a strong and meaningful correlation between men's hetero/sex[ist] offences and the other anti-woman behaviors in a man's life. For me, this is in the "no brainer" category. But often when such a nice, quiet, gentle man is found to be guilty of rape and/or incest, the neighbors--who knows how close by they live--often scratch their heads in amazement.

Let's face facts: if we include men accessing images of raped women and incested girls in our definition of "sexual offences" this puts the figures of heterosexual men who commit sexual offences, who have internet access, at approximately 99.99% (I do know two young white heterosexual men who do not seek or obtain access images of incested, raped, and/or pimped women. That's two of approximately a thousand white heterosexual men I have known.

For those men reading this who are all puffed up right now with indignation at me stating that YES, you DO commit "a sexual offence" by accessing such images, and you're likely a serial sex offender, using this criteria, we have next to consider how and what questions are asked of women in determining whether or not they are survivors of sexual offences. Before any heteromale reader next accesses such images, let me ask you four questions:

1. Did the woman or girl you are about to visually access give you permission, in person or in writing, to look at her?

2. Do you know the history of the girl or woman you are about to look at? Do you know if she's an incest survivor? Do you know if she's a rape survivor?

3. Are you sure what you're about to watch isn't the filming of her rape or other sexual assault?

4. Given the very high likelihood that any woman's image you find that was produced and distributed as pornography, made by pimps with cameras, does the "reasonable conclusion" that you are CHOOSING to access images or videos of female survivors of abuse bother you in the least? Does it register as "something harmful" to humanity to do?

I am raising one reason why stats of men who abuse women are far too low. But my criteria are far from stringent compared to what the following documents describe on the subject of quantifying sexual assault and rape statistics. There questions get asked like "If a man rapes a woman multiple times, is that considered 'one rape'?" Do statistics carefully distinguish between incidents of rape, including multiple rapes of, say, prostituted and/or married women, or does it just do "a body count" on those raped?

For more, see this:
http://new.vawnet.org/Assoc_Files_VAWnet/AR_RapeStatistics.pdf

and also this post over at the abyss2hope blog.

In this and future posts, I will make the case that most heterosexual men commit sexual offences and/or sexist assaults against women, and that I determine this not only by what women say, but by what such men readily admit to me (or to the general public) they do, regularly and repeatedly.

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Everyday Male Chauvinism. Men: do you see what's wrong with this picture?

[above is an example of sexism that ISN'T interpersonal, but is rather institutionalised. It is from here]

A couple of days ago, I just found out about this written material on men's interpersonal sexism.

What follows is a PDF document titled "Everyday Male Chauvinism" and it was written by two men. If the link doesn't work, try copying and pasting the link into your browser's URL bar.

***18 Oct. 2010 update: please use this website as the one to access the PDF:
http://stop-ferfieroszak.hu/en/everyday-male-chauvinism

Thank you. -- Julian

***30 Dec. 2009 update: Arghhh! The 30 Nov. link doesn't work either, but fortunately an internet friend and feminist colleague, Milla, has sent me some ways to access this important work. THANK YOU, MILLA!!!!! <3 (You can see her complete comment below this post and several earlier comments.) I've also put the first link that follows in my list of important webpages/websites on the far right of this blog, down a ways, titled "Everyday Male Chauvinism". Just now appears some of Milla's comment to me with the ACTIVE links!!! Fingers crossed.***

hello Julian,


i've noticed that the html-link isn't working either. and i really want to share this text so i copied it to my blog:


http://sosiaalikeskus.wordpress.com/read-this/about/everyday-male-chauvinism/


the link is currently only visible in this post, should find some nice place for it:
http://sosiaalikeskus.wordpress.com/2009/12/30/looking-4-romance-everyday-male-chauvinism/
[scroll down on that webpage for the link titled "everyday male chauvinism"-- Julian]


[This is no longer the case: ***30 Nov. 2009 update: it was brought to my attention that the link I had to the pdf file no longer works, so I'm linking here to an HTML version of "Everyday Male Chauvinism" and if anyone finds a working link to the pdf file, sent it right along and I'll post it here as well. Here's the HTML version.***]


Let me know what you think of it. I don't know either of the authors. But depending on what you write to me, I may contact them.


Thanks.


Julian