[image is from here]
[Please also see the follow-up post to this one, SEXISM-IN-ACTION, Part 2, by clicking *here*]
I chose this image because it speaks to a truth about misogyny and sexism: they are always social phenomena. They are never individual-impacting only. And it takes many men to support sexism for it to exist. Men's views of women EXIST as truth. Even when they are SEXIST. Women's truths about men are never debated by men as rational views of reality. Men systematically and collectively deny women's realities even EXIST.
Here's the deal, folks. Het guys who have been turned away by a heterosexual woman get together to consider how psychotic she is. Women who have been turned away by a man get to wonder "What did I do wrong?"
This is social reality. This is patriarchal reality. This is sexism and misogyny.
But what if the woman DOESN'T ask this of herself, and, instead, draws the conclusion, accurately, that the guy is sexist and not worth her time and energy? Then, according the "rejected" het man, she's psychotic. Het men cannot even imagine why it might be that a woman would cut off contact with them when they are sexist in unconscious ways, even while men do it to women all the damn time without calling EACH OTHER psychotic.
Het men make it a homosocial practice to gather and conspire to mischaracterise women in misogynistic ways, that the men mistake as "telling the truth about her". They, as men, have the power to name reality. So when two or more of them gather and agree about "what a woman is", then "she is it", according to them. Not subjectively; not from their own possibly sexist point of view. It becomes objective TRUTH (to them). And when the het men are challenged on their sexism, on their misogyny, for doing exactly what is described above and evidenced below, they are likely to want to silence the critic rather than learn more about themselves.
So, here we have a het man who goes on his Facebook page to misogynistically (mis)characterise a woman as... well... you'll see. And a woman comes over to engage him in discussion about his sexist behavior. And a guy comes by to concur with him--to compare notes, and to shore up their similarly misogynistic conclusions--conclusions they'd NEVER draw about any HET MEN who do what the woman does who they are publicly criticising. And when this woman calls him out, he ignores her. What do you call that? I call it sexism and misogyny. And when a male, me, comes to the site to call out their sexism, what does the het man do with that? He purges it from "reality". He censors out that perspective because as a male, I too have the power to name reality, so he needs to make my reality "disappear".
Let's ALL have a looksee, shall we? (And note the updates at the end.)
Here's the URL, and we may note which comments have since been deleted:
This is some basic public information about the man whose Facebook page we are about to visit. I've edited out his birthday and home city, as it's not relevant. He's in his late twenties, though.
- Relationship Status:
- Brampton, ON, Montego Bay, Jamaica
- Political Views:
- Religious Views:
Andrão Brasileiro Fanático is thankful for all the SANE women out there...in the midst of all the crazies with bipolar tendencies, you all are a breath of fresh air...
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