For this discussion and often on this blog, “Womyn” and  “Lesbians” means the following: human beings raised in patriarchal  environments to be girls and women; women who, from birth onward, were  identified, labeled, and mis/treated as female human beings are meant to  be mis/treated according to patriarchal will and ways; women who were  mis/treated as girls throughout their childhoods; intersex people who  were raised to be girls and women and who were mis/treated as girls and  women by men in their communities and the larger societies in which they  have lived and died.
As a gay male, I  see the destruction of Womyn's and Lesbian community as a key strategy  to keep heterosexism strong and powerful. In the last 25 years it is  Radical Lesbian community and activism that has been one of very few  on-going oases of revolutionary political activity against the male  flood of patriarchal hostilities and oppression, including hostilities  and oppression organised and maintained by gay men.
Currently,  in my experience, elite/privileged het and trans activists control or  try and control discussions about what oppression is, what privilege is,  and what bigotry is. Nowhere in those discussions do I see any regard  or respect for Radical Lesbian or Womyn's community and it's value (the  necessity of it) to revolutionary action to end CRAP. I know a few  region-, race-, and class-privileged trans and queer people have spoken  out about the need to respect Womyn's and Lesbian spaces. But that  doesn't go far enough, in my opinion.
One  of the most pernicious lies about Radical Lesbian and Womyn-centered  community is that it only exists in the US and that it is only or all  white. Neither is the case but it may well also be the case that for  many reasons having to do with survival, we will not be hearing from  most Radical Lesbians. For one thing, most Lesbians do not speak English  as a first or only language. For another, Radical Lesbian politics and  practice has been so intensely put down and marginalised out of any  Western Queer Theory and Practice that it appears to me to be the case  that contemporary White and Western Queer Theory and Practice is  virulently anti-Lesbian and anti-Radical. Meanwhile, it is positioned or  promoted as being anti-human, meaning, anti-male and anti-trans. Why it  is that pro-male supremacist and pro-trans activists don't challenge  one another's anti-Lesbianism and anti-Womyn practices is a matter of  revolutionary significance, in my view.
Anti-Lesbian  homophobia, or lesbophobia, and racism, classism, misogyny, and  heterosexism are woven into or embedded in contemporary public Queer  discussion (academics call this “Discourse”). Het society has never  regarded Radical Lesbian Politics as anything other than man-hating and  “too extreme”. To write off a key site of political organisation and  resistance is one way to ensure that revolutionary political movement  won't take root. 
How could it be  that less and less Radical Revolutionary Lesbian Politics is “good” for  us? If the us is Lesbian and Gay, how does it serve our interests to  understand our contributions to Queer discussion and action as “only  transphobic”, “too extreme”, and “man-hating”? We already know that the  man-hating charge is perhaps the most successful het- and  male-privileging and het- and male supremacy protecting political  accusation leveled at Womyn and Lesbians.
The  charge of “transphobia” in some marginalised groups, has social capital  in ways that the charge of being anti-Lesbian and anti-Womyn does not.  Why is that? Ought we know why that is? Ought we openly discuss it in  Queer groups? 
Hostility to Radical  Feminism is as old as Radical Feminism. Hostility to Radical Lesbian  Feminism is at least as intense. Het men across race, sexuality, and  region, demonstrate an abiding hatred of Lesbians, Womyn, and anyone  regarded as a girl or a women, whether or not they are (such as, for  example, so-called 'feminine' men and gay men. Het men also demonstrate a  virulent hatred of het and 'feminine' and butch women, Lesbian or not.
Where  is the organised opposition to this profoundly entrenched misogyny? I  can tell you one place it isn't: within and among gay male communities  and activists. Needless to say, organised opposition to anti-Lesbian and  anti-Womyn misogyny doesn't exist in het-dominated communities either.
I  have had the unfortunate and on-going occasion to witness how some  grown male family members mis/treat their young male children. A portion  of a day does not go by without rigid and oppressive policing of the  male children's presentation of their maleness as identified and  understood by the older men around them. The boys are publicly and  privately ostracised by male family members if the boys do not “man up”  properly—according to the standards and practices of homophobic and  misogynistic men. So if a boy doesn't firmly and strongly shake a grown  male's hand, or flaps his hands by his side as he walks or runs, he is  scorned and ridiculed in a systematic effort to get him to be a “proper  male” which means, necessarily, being anti-gay and anti-woman (as well  as anti-Lesbian and anti-Womyn).
Anti-gay and anti-lesbian  practice is like CRAP-affected air: it is all around me and it is a  potent pollutant I endure and do my best to ignore. Metaphorically  speaking, when I open my eyes and lungs to this toxin, my eyes sting and  my chest burns and constricts. It is difficult to convey in words  exactly how overwhelming and hateful this heterosexism is. It is  difficult but not impossible for me to imagine how hateful the combo of  heterosexism and misogyny is. It is difficult but not impossible for me  to imagine how hateful the combo of heterosexism, misogyny,  anti-Lesbianism, and anti-Womyn attitudes and behaviors are. Add to that  racism. Add to that classism. Add to that the oppression by white  Westerners of those who are not “First World”, or who are immigrants of  color, or who are speakers of ESL. Or elderly. Or disabled.
Nowhere  in my dysfunctionally heterosexist family is there any regard or  respect for Womyn, for Lesbians, or for anti-patriarchal, anti-het or  Womyn- and Lesbian-affirming attitudes and behaviors. Nowhere. Not in  any minute of any day. While some lip-service is paid to liberal  feminism—rarely—no such respectful acknowledgment of Radical or  Revolutionary Lesbian and Womyn-centered community and resistance to  woman-hating is noticed. This is only partly because it is not allowed  in any dominant media, so my family has no idea it exists. They do know  transsexual people exist and while they will demonstrate little else  other than misunderstanding and fear, they do not believe transsexual  people ought to not exist. They do believe this about Butch women,  Lesbians, and Womyn-centered womyn—who they understand to be not much  more or less than heretics and pariahs. 
My  family is Christian and white. Also poor and working class. Their level  of protection and privileging of hetness is so intense, so unrelenting  that no one in my family who has considered gay or lesbian existence for  themselves has been able to talk about it with anyone other than me—or  so they say to me in private. (A publicly het male cousin, for three  years, summoned me to have sex with him in motel rooms. I complied and  obliged. It's not something that was “not pleasurable”. It's also  something that I do my very best to avoid engaging in ever again because  it was so invisibilising of me.)
So  while I know that within the last three generations there have been  non-het and non-feminine women, and non-het and non-masculine men, it is  not discussed or tolerated or—whitemaleskygod's heaven  forbid—celebrated and actively supported.
The  lack of celebration, respect, regard, and support for Lesbianism, for  Womyn-centered existence, for Revolutionary anti-patriarchal practice,  cannot be overstated. 
My concluding  questions for now are these: Why does a similar level of disdain and  disregard for Lesbians and Womyn who are politically engaged in the  project of protecting and supporting Lesbian and Womyn's space,  community, theory, and activism, exist so strongly in contemporary  elite/privileged Queer spaces, communities, theories, and activism? Why  is there no systematic and on-going elite/privileged Queer opposition to  the theoretical positioning, the liberal political practice—of naming  Lesbians and Womyn as primarily or only oppressors to Queer and  Transsexual people?