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I don't quite get why liberals don't get what pornography is and does. I honestly don't quite get it. I think individualism and liberalism have combined so thoroughly with capitalism and patriarchy to make people believe, against great evidence, that pornography just causes "arousal" or "harms no one". You have to be a pretty fucking callous bastard to come to that conclusion. You have to not see the women used in pornography as human, and you have to not give much of a shit about how your pornography use impacts on the women around you: the women you are in relationship with, and the woman you objectify more and violate more in public, at the gym, in the office, or wherever, because you're consuming so much CRAP you can't know what is a human rights issue from what is natural.
Pornography makes sex into sexxx, which is the fusion of cultural sexuality to shame, degradation, oppression, and humiliation. That's what it does. That's what it exists to do. Oh, and to make pimps a lot of money. Pornography teaches males that women with fake breasts and bleached hair and painted fingernails are "naturally beautiful". Pornography tells lies both about women and about men, and it truly amazes me that more people don't get this. How "pornographised" does society have to be to think "hey, pornography: it's great!" How bound do our souls have to be to capitalistic, patriarchal greed and callousness to not recognise inhumanity when it's staring us in the face. The inhumanity is not the women in pornography, mind you. The inhumanity is in the pimps who mass market women's "retouched" flesh without regard for her bodily integrity, her health, her history, or her future.
Too often, conversations about sexual liberals get framed up in ways that preclude even getting at WHAT THE HUMAN RIGHTS ISSUE IS. In this case, we have someone trying to disrespect and disregard--to shame--the feelings of women who don't want their male spouses or boyfriends using internet pornography. And so we can watch how it's never, ever okay to say or do anything that might just make a male feel SHAME about something he's doing that's fucked up. But it's open season on shaming women who stand up for their human rights to be seen and treated as human and to demand that any man treat all women as fully human. Wow, what a concept, huh? Men respecting ALL women. What is this, the year 2010?? Oh, yeah, it is.
This was just posted @ sexgenderbody blog, which is where the initial discussion takes place.
A multi-part reply. What’s between asterisks is from the initial discussion at that blog. What’s not is by me.
*”My girlfriend doesn’t let me watch porn because she says it’s cheating.”*