Wednesday, February 24, 2010

When Men are Victimised by Men the violation and violence is called "Brutal Abuse", but when the Victim is a Woman, it's called "A Sex Scandal": THANK YOU ALLECTO (cross post from Gorgon Poisons)

The following post was made to indicate, rather effectively, how misogyny factors into the reporting of gang rape by men of women, or of one woman. What follows is from *here*, at the radical feminist lesbian of color blog Gorgon Poisons, which I've happily added to my blogroll on the lower right. Thank you, Allecto!!! This quote is at the end of her post, but I'll put it first and leave it in place at the end.
*DISCLAIMER: I do not believe a single word of what I wrote [below]. I was just so angry with the way that this issue was reported in contrast to the way that the gang rape of women by footballers was reported. In my opinion, they are exactly the same; in fact the women raped by footballers suffered far more than the fire fighters did in this recent sexual abuse case. Why is it that women getting gang-raped by footballers is reported as a ‘sex scandal’ but when something similar happens to a man it is ‘horrific abuse’? Yes, what these firefighters suffered was horrific abuse. It is inexcusable. It is a crime. It should never, ever happen to anyone, ever. SAME WITH THE GANG RAPE OF WOMEN BY FOOTBALLERS!!!!! And yet the above was exactly the way that the media handled the gang rape of Clare… and so many other women who have been deeply scarred by their horrific experiences at the hands of rapist football players.*

Firefighters group sex scandal exposed

February 15, 2010

A culture of homosexual group sex has been exposed with recent allegations of ‘sexual abuse’ by some retired fire fighters against their colleagues. These allegations have given rise to a debate on the nature of consent within group sex between men. Some sources have jumped to immediate conclusions on the matter, blaring headlines such as “Brutal Abuse Exposed” (Cover of The Sunday Telegraph, Sunday 14th February). However the issue is far more complicated than that.

We need to take into consideration several important points before we make such spurious judgment on the nature of this so called ‘abuse’.

One, it is a well known fact that groups of men in dangerous occupations tend to have sex with each other. The men making claims of abuse, knowingly and willing entered into a hazardous occupation which was, and still is, male dominated. What did they think was going to happen? Cup cakes and Kumbayah? No, these men knew full well the nature of other men and they willingly entered into an environment where they knew there was a risk of sex. Haven’t they seen the sexy calenders that firefighters produce for gay men?

Two, after the so-called ‘abuse’ all three men chose to stay within their career as firefighters. None of them reported the ‘abuse’ to the police until many years later. Obviously these men were ambivalent about whether or not this actually was abuse. Surely, if the group sex had been unwelcome, they would have left their positions and reported the crime to authorities.

Three, none of the men indicated that the group sex was unwelcome until years later. They report passively accepting the ‘abuse’, none of them claim to have asked the accused to stop, nor did they indicate that they had struggled in any way. It is difficult to believe that the advances of the accused were unwelcome when no indication was made on the part of the ‘victim’ to resist.

It is obvious that these men invited group sex when they joined the fire brigade. They did not leave their employment when the group sex started. And there is no indication that they did not consent to the so-called abuse. The case against the accused is very thin. It is difficult to understand how headlines like: “Brutal Abuse Exposed” could possibly by justified.

What this incident does indicate is that internalised homophobia and a desire for monetary compensation has driven some men to deny their natural inclinations for, and enjoyment of, all-male group sex. We need to change the culture of male-dominated, dangerous occupations so that men can indulge in group orgies with other men and not feel ashamed by their natural desires. This recent scandal has exposed the shocking truth of our society’s intolerance of the natural male sex drive. We need to accept and support men who need a good group fuck before fighting fires, crime, war etc. Headlines like the one published in The Sunday Telegraph are inflammatory and ignore the realities of what men need. If you want to support our firies in their life-saving efforts, embrace the fact of all-male group sex. It is a necessary, natural, team-bonding experience that makes men, men, and gives them the impetus to keep risking their lives, day after day.

*DISCLAIMER: I do not believe a single word of what I wrote above. I was just so angry with the way that this issue was reported in contrast to the way that the gang rape of women by footballers was reported. In my opinion, they are exactly the same; in fact the women raped by footballers suffered far more than the fire fighters did in this recent sexual abuse case. Why is it that women getting gang-raped by footballers is reported as a ‘sex scandal’ but when something similar happens to a man it is ‘horrific abuse’? Yes, what these firefighters suffered was horrific abuse. It is inexcusable. It is a crime. It should never, ever happen to anyone, ever. SAME WITH THE GANG RAPE OF WOMEN BY FOOTBALLERS!!!!! And yet the above was exactly the way that the media handled the gang rape of Clare… and so many other women who have been deeply scarred by their horrific experiences at the hands of rapist football players.*

1 comment:

JENNIFER DREW said...

The reason as I am sure most feminists and pro-feminists know is that male sexual violence against women is commonly dismissed as being either the woman/women lied or else the woman/women wanted one or more men to forcibly penetrate her body in various ways.

However, when a man or men rape another man or men then it becomes 'real rape' and 'real abuse' because our male supremacist society believes the only real sexual crimes of violence are those committed by men against other men.

Women are not human according to male supremacist doctrine and our sole reason for existence is to be men's sexual service stations 24/7.

Only the most extreme acts of male sexual violence against women and children are declared to be 'real sexual violence' and even then male perpetrators are commonly excused/justified because hey - they all had bad mothers or their fathers were absent and so they lacked a 'real male role model!'

I agree - the horrific group rape of a woman by a number of adult male football players is male sexual violence against women as is the equally horrific group rape of men by a group of male fire fighters male sexual violence against males.

Thank you Allecto for succinctly proving how the male sexual double standard operates and also for showing how the same victim blaming tactics could but were not used against the male victims of this crime.

What makes me so angry is that such victim-blaming tactics are routinely declaimed by rape apologists every time a woman or girl very courageously reports to police authorities a male/males has/have raped and or subjected her to sexualised torture.

Yes indeed why did it take so long for the male victims to report to police the sexual violence and sexual torture they were subjected to by other male firefighters. Why did not these male victims take greater precautions in respect of their safety? After all they must have known what men are capable of committing when placed in situations wherein they have to live for long periods with just other males for company.

Why did not these men say no in a loud voice and in such a way that the male rapists understood their refusal. After all we are all individuals and everyone - men especially have been accorded the right of sexual autonomy and ownership of their bodies have they not?

Oh but I forget sexual autonomy and ownership of one's body is reserved for heterosexual males not women and children, which is why the multiple acts of group rape committed by male firefighters against other male firefighters is 'real sexual violence' and 'real abuse' because it contravenes men's right of sexual autonomy and ownership of their bodies.

Yet men commonly claim feminists hate men but as Allecto shows this is not the case - what feminists hate is how and why male sexual violence against women and children is commonly trivialised and/or dismissed as not 'real sexual violence.' Feminists - real feminists that is - all believe that sexual violence in any shape or form is a violation of all human beings rights irrespective of whether or not the victim(s) is/are male or female.

But that is commonly ignored by MRAS' determined to uphold male supremacy over women.