Wednesday, October 7, 2009

A commenter here gets her say: PLEASE READ!

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One of the commenters at this blog had a response that wanted to make more accessible to readers here. I asked her if I could make it a separate blog post. She agreed. Here it is. (Very minor typos were corrected by me in what appears below so that if someone wants to translate this into another language the translation will be more accurate.) For its original location on A.R.P., at the October 2 JERK MEN post, see here. All of what follows below is her writing.

I don't think these guys are going to get outraged at their fellow men for being rapists. I don't see men marching in the streets to protest the rape of women and girls. They do sit home and watch football. I've never once heard a man get morally outraged to the point of anger over women getting raped ever. Never ever heard a man IRL ever say anything like this. Hey I'm in my 50s, I meet thousands of men and women every year, I travel widely. Never hear men ever bring up atrocities against women of their own free will. I have to bring up the subject always, and they never care when I do bring this up.

All objections to male behavior are called "man hating" -- that's right it's always labeled man hating.

I don't really see men ever getting outraged over the treatment of women and girls in the media period. Their silence is just deafening. The only time I ever see men get outraged is when "their" property rights are being violated or THEIR taxes are increased or THEIR porn is taken off the market. Then I see men getting good and mad.

I really don't think men as a species are capable of caring about women or girls at all, they just want to own women, have sex available or provide for their property upkeep.

And why is it that men who are supposedly so "logical" and "scientific" don't deal with the stats about who does what to whom and how frequently? If hundreds of thousands of women and girls are raped in a male led civil war, where is the international male outrage against this? I don't see it, I don't hear it. I can honestly say that I never ever hear any male outrage about any of their sex crimes, their sexual obsessions, their sex saturate lifestyles.

Perhaps men really aren't fully human after all. I really wonder because there is no action on their part that I can see IRL. Blogs like this are rare to non-existent. I don't think men want to care about anyone but their own selfish interests, and they'll keep on doing this till the end of time, that and letting rapists out of jail so that these men can continue to have access to children.




So true A Commentator and every word you write is fact not fiction, not man-hating - just facts.

This also shows society is indeed male-centered, male-dominated and male-obsessed.

Where indeed are the men loudly shaming other men who rape and commit male violence against women. I and many, many women continue to wait in vain. In the meantime women are hounded, sexually insulted and denied their right of speaking their truth.

Granted there are a few men who dare to challenge other men but I refuse to put them on pedestals. Instead they are doing what all or most men should do and that is denounce men who hold women in contempt; refuse to hold misogynistic views and finally but perhaps most importantly, believe women like men are human and innately entitled to human status and all it entails. Those men who go against dominant masculinity are not more worthy or more praiseworthy rather they are doing what all men should be taught as boys and that is women just like men are human and women are not men's sexual commodities or put on this earth to cater to men's every whim, demand or pseudo male sex right.

If any male imagines men's crimes against women are exaggerated and lies then do yourselves a favour and read The War Against Women by Marilyn French. Oh but I forget anything written by a woman and particularly a feminist woman is apparently man-hating and can be dismissed as 'fantasy.' I wish!

Is it really asking too much for men to cease enacting 'bystander behaviour' and for once just once -condemn those men who rape and commit other forms of sexual violence against women. For once speak out against normalisation of prostitution because despite propaganda it is men who are driving the sexual exploitation of women and girls not the reverse.

Yes, because it is all about male power and male control over women. Now I await a deluge of hysterical complaints from men all claiming they are being victimised by such 'unjust treatment.' So it continues - men's never ending war on women.

Anonymous said...

P.S. Jennifer Drew awaits a deluge of complaints by men. Of course they complain about everything women do to protect themselves and to expose the monsters that are men in the world.

You are dealing with half the human race that simply should have its humanity revoked. I don't think we can put men in the category of human anymore.

How many men do women kill, rape and terrorize each day? And they get angry when we write about their crimes? They call this manhating, well of course I hate men. Why wouldn't I? They just prove me right about them every day of the year. They never ever deviate from their massive clueless bystander behavior.

Women have to wake up to this, and not be fooled by the group that never intends to do anything at all about violence against women by men. No, nothing at all.